Rediscovering life and manhood after prostate cancer
I was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the end of 2019 and feared losing my manhood and my life. I was lucky to have my prostate surgically removed before the cancer spread more widely. The most minimal roadmap for recovery was provided. I want to expand the roadmap and the conversation about recovering life and manhood after prostate cancer.
Step by step, this is to share my story as it unfolded over the last 16 months. My aim is to mark some points on the rather uncharted landscape, so you can build your own roadmap. It is a direct and personal account of my body, head, heart and soul journey as well as the inner and outer resources that helped me along the way. I am also grateful to my wife and other cancer survivors for sharing their stories on these pages.
The goal: rebuild health, expand identity as a man.
Before and after surgery: two short videos
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Journeys of recovery from prostate cancer
Below are the thumbnails of the most recent posts – click on each for the full story. For chronological order, please visit diagnosis, treatment and recovery pages. More here every week. I invite you to subscribe (see above and sidebar on the right/below) so you don’t miss a thing.
By Jeannie and Pratap Mehta Sex over 80 (for him) and approaching 80 (for her) "keeps us both young in many senses." A loving couple, together for nearly sixty years, looks back on the impact of a prostate cancer diagnosis [...]
23 July 2020: Pelvic floor physiotherapy was the missing piece in my recovery puzzle after prostate cancer surgery. Because of systemic weaknesses in post-operative care, I got minimal practical guidance from my medical team. But now I am on track. Here's [...]
By Pramod Daya I like measuring things. Especially the reports on my health – cholesterol levels, blood sugar levels, blood pressure, weight. And graphing them, to get a sense of whether my general health is improving, or declining. My brother [...]
By Pramod Daya Adult incontinence is an unpleasant and often undiscussable side effect of prostate cancer treatment. It's a frequent consequence of prostate cancer treatment and affects about 40% of all men going through radical prostatectomy surgery for up to [...]
This is an invitation to join a live, inclusive real-time conversation circle where we share our experiences with prostate cancer and men's sexual health. If you join at this early stage in the group's formation you will be able to [...]
21 June 2020: I still have severe erectile dysfunction according to the International Index of Erectile Function. What a blessing to have a partner with whom I can laugh, cry, connect and learn. We have been fumbling, laughing and loving our [...]
26 June 2020: This is about the astonishing joy of eating easy anti-cancer food. Diet is not a panacea, but here are some practical ways to eat healthy organic food every day. I'm convinced it helps keep cancer at bay. I [...]
By Dr Rhys Leeming Bladder control is a big problem for prostate cancer survivors and here's how I helped myself by doing Kegels after my prostatectomy. I felt lucky to regain night time continence within about a month of prostate [...]
By Dr Rhys Leeming Without a doubt, of all the medical interventions I have had, my prostatectomy has left the deepest scars. Thrown instantly into erectile dysfunction and bladder incontinence, my world was thrown into a deep turmoil. This is [...]
Prostate cancer impacts couples: here are the early weeks of my partner experience after prostate cancer surgery. By Colleen Dawson The harsh reality of cancer The reality of my husband's cancer hit me only at the post-op check with the surgeon. [...]
4 June 2020: Tracking and managing the flow of my energy feels crucial to my healing. There are many ways to make meaning of "energy." In this post I will look at where different forms of energy come from, get boosted, [...]
25 May 2020: At last I am able to take practical action on penile rehabilitation. Medically, it directly addresses the biggest danger to long term erectile function arising from my prostate cancer surgery. Penile rehabilitation exercises also promise to help with [...]
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