Rediscovering life and manhood after prostate cancer
I was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the end of 2019 and feared losing my manhood and my life. I was lucky to have my prostate surgically removed before the cancer spread more widely. The most minimal roadmap for recovery was provided. I want to expand the roadmap and the conversation about recovering life and manhood after prostate cancer.
Step by step, this is to share my story as it unfolded over the last two years. My aim is to mark some points on the rather uncharted landscape, so you can build your own roadmap. It is a direct and personal account of my body, head, heart and soul journey as well as the inner and outer resources that helped me along the way. Grateful thanks to my wife and other cancer survivors for also sharing their stories on these pages.
The goal: rebuild health, expand identity as a man.
Before and after surgery: three short videos
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Journeys of recovery from – and adaptation to – prostate cancer
Below are the thumbnails of the most recent posts – click on each for the full story. For chronological order, please visit diagnosis, treatment and recovery pages. More here every week. I invite you to subscribe (see above and sidebar on the right/below) so you don’t miss a thing.
8 July 2021: Prostate cancer treatment increases risk of Peyronie's disease which leads to bent or misshapen erections. This is caused by the buildup of a hard knot or lump, known as plaque, in the membrane that surrounds the erectile tissues [...]
My PSA has started to rise, 18 months after my prostate cancer treatment. Guest Post by Dr Rhys Leeming I’m beginning to see later life in general, and Prostate Cancer (PC) in particular, like a game of snakes and ladders. [...]
25 April 2021: Everybody agrees that integrated health care is the best way to address illness and enhance wellness. But actual prostate cancer care is divided into narrow splinters of excellence. That's what I and 99% of the prostate cancer [...]
20 April 2021: Losing my prostate has brought energy changes. It's also got me exploring where my energy really comes from. When I say "energy" I mean something less tangible than the literal physical energy we get from eating food [...]
By Colleen Dawson Being a woman means that sex is inextricably linked to careful preparation. Spontaneity happens when the planning allows it. While many men are averse to anything "artificial" in their own sexual performance, I have always had to deal [...]
19 April 2021: I was interviewed today by my hero Dr Jo Milios and the wonderful Melissa Hadley Barrett. It was edgy to be so frank in telling the story of the first year of my sexual recovery after prostate cancer. [...]
There are many options on being diagnosed with prostate cancer, and definitely one size doesn't fit all. Gavin Hartford was diagnosed with prostate cancer around the same time as me in 2019. Within days, he and his wife took off [...]
By Paddy O'Brien Whatever my Gleason Score was, I forget. It is written down somewhere. When urologist Dr Moolman told me (in May 2017) that 75% of the needle biopsy samples from my prostate were cancerous, after a TURP op, [...]
13 March 2021 (Day 380 after my surgery): This is about getting help with intimacy after cancer. I have a new body. For my wife it's about having a partner with a differently able body. How do we connect intimately? We [...]
by Trevor Pope I received a diagnosis of prostate cancer ten years ago, and it was treated with brachytherapy. The treatment was a success and the outcome is that my cancer is cured. That is, if cancer is ever really [...]
By Trevor Pope January 2022 marks ten years since my diagnosis and brachytherapy treatment for cancer of the prostate. As anybody who has been given a dread-disease diagnosis will tell you, this can be life changing, even life-ending. So it [...]
27 February 2021: A year after radical prostatectomy, I am so glad to be alive. I've also realised it is time to tell my story.* In this post and short video, I reflect on the many changes in my life. There's [...]
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