Rediscovering life and manhood after prostate cancer
I was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the end of 2019 and feared losing my manhood and my life. I was lucky to have my prostate surgically removed before the cancer spread more widely. The most minimal roadmap for recovery was provided. I want to expand the roadmap and the conversation about recovering life and manhood after prostate cancer.
Here, you can read a variety of survivor’s stories and those of their partners. There are lots of useful resources for your own journey. And this is not a substitute for professional medical advice.
The roots of this blog lie in the step by step sharing of my story as it unfolded over the last two and a half years, together with others who have different experiences. My aim is to mark some points on the rather uncharted landscape, so you can build your own roadmap. It includes direct and personal accounts of our body, head, heart and soul and partner journeys as well as the inner and outer resources that helped us along the way. Grateful thanks to my wife and an increasing number of other cancer survivors and their partners for sharing stories on these pages.
The goals: rebuild health, expand identities, make the most of what we have.
Before and after my surgery: short videos
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Journeys of recovery from – and adaptation to – prostate cancer
Below are the thumbnails of the most recent posts – click on each for the full story. For chronological order, please visit diagnosis, treatment and recovery pages. More here every week. I invite you to subscribe (see above and sidebar on the right/below) so you don’t miss a thing.
Day 877: Benefits of a modest boost in testosterone
23 July 2022, Victoria BC: My testosterone is back in the normal range. My PSA is still undetectable. And I am celebrating the benefits of a (modest) boost in testosterone. Today I ran my fastest 5 km since 2014! (26 minutes [...]
Day 750: Needing to pee and nowhere to go
18 March 2022: Two years after my prostatectomy, my urine control is quite good. Tonight it got a pressure test. It's always tough when you are away from home and need to pee. It gets tougher after prostate cancer surgery, because [...]
Two years on: how prostate cancer has softened me
27 February 2022: There is so much to be grateful for, two years after my radical prostatectomy. And there are losses and changes that continue to upset and confuse me. Beforehand, my urologist said cryptically "after I remove your prostate, you [...]
Day 716: Boosting testosterone after prostate cancer
12 February 2022: Today I started a course of treatment with the intention of naturally boosting my low testosterone after prostate cancer. It is important because testosterone is a miracle hormone (actually for both men and women.) It helps build and [...]
Guest post 2: orchidectomy as an ADT alternative
By John In June this year I chose to have my testicles surgically removed, as an alternative to a lifetime on Androgen Deprivation Therapy (ADT). In terms of my overall quality of life after orchidectomy, it is working better for [...]
Success with Viagra – 2 years after radical prostatectomy
13 December 2021 - While adapting to and celebrating the joys of softer sexuality, I also admit to pining for the return of hard erections. Drugs like Viagra and Cialis can help but it is complicated. Today I tried again with [...]
Guest post: better sex after prostate cancer
By John I was 58 when I was first diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2015. I tried alternative treatments initially as I was not that keen on potential side effects of either surgery or radiation treatment - particularly on my [...]
Guest poem 3: Stoic masculinity
By Steve Jones I sometimes scroll through the faces of the men who have liked or reacted to a poem or a writing of mine. I see something in us all. I see something behind the eyes and the smiles knowing [...]
Day 633: meditating on soft and hard
21 November 2021: Prostate cancer has required and encouraged me to explore the softer side of my sexuality. For the past year, I and other contributors have been extolling the virtues of erectionless sex, gender fluidity, sensuality and libido that goes [...]
Day 595: Impact of low testosterone
14 October 2021: I'm feeling the impact of low testosterone. From past experience I recognise the subtle changes. For the last couple of months, I've generally been a bit more lethargic. I've had less physical energy. Even after increasing my daily [...]
Year 2: keeping it all together
13 September 2021: My second year since prostate cancer surgery feels like I'm constantly juggling health demands to keep my life together. Separately, there is progress on many fronts: diet, fitness, cancer, urine control, sexual function, relationship adaptation, mental and emotional [...]
Guest poem 2: Lonely nights
By Steve Jones I wrote this about 8 months ago and wanted to share a part of my long, hard, mentally exhausting road back to sexual health and my New normal after my prostate cancer was removed surgically (Robotic Radical Prostatectomy) [...]
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